Annette Ramdehol: What it Means to Be a "Big"
When I met Tiffany we bonded instantly. Being that we are both Guyanese-American of Indian decent, I quickly discovered that we both liked the same music and movies, as well as sharing other common interests. We were both very anxious to become friends. Sadly, Tiffany lost her father in the tragic events of September 11, 2001. Though I knew I could never replace her father, nor could I ever diminish the pain that comes with losing a parent, I wanted Tiffany to know that I would be there to support her through this difficult time and that if she was ever down I would be there to pick her up. When I reflect back on the time that I have spent with Tiffany, I am touched most by the day we were interviewed by National Public Radio. The results of this interview helped me learn a lot about how she and her family were coping with the effect of September 11th. It's a very comforting feeling to know that my support has been helping her. I remember her mom telling the reporter that when Tiffany returns home after our match activity, she has a special glow on her face that is not seen otherwise. I am glad to know that she is making her best effort to maintain good grades in school and is participating in extra-curricular activities. I even watched how beautifully she performed at her dance recital. Her lively spirit makes me a child again. Whether its climbing the monkey bars at the park, or driving bumper cars, or laughing at the funny scene in a movie, having Tiffany in my life is a reminder of the innocence that a child brings into this world and the importance an adult influence can have in shaping the life of that child.