Chineze Enekwechi: What it Means to Be a "Big"
I became a Big Sister this year because I felt that the minority teenagers in New York City had very few public role models, and needed to see how everyday-people can be successful in their own right. I am close to the Littles in age, so I thought it was important for them to see the type of job opportunities available to them if they choose to educate themselves. I also thought it would be fun to see life through a teenager's eyes again. My biggest concern prior to becoming a Big Sister was that I would be paired up with a Little that had issues beyond my limits, such as pregnancy, abusive home life, and a lack of interest in me personally. Once I met and got to know my Little, these fears subsided. Our first meeting was spent asking and answering surface questions about family members, and favorite things. I was very much at ease during this first meeting. The relationship with my Little has evolved in that she has begun to open up to me and tell me what problems she has regarding parents, school and friends. I have recommended this program to coworkers and friends. There's nothing quite as satisfying as seeing the smile on your Little's face when you appear, and the hug when you leave. I have become more patient and understanding with youth today not brought up under the same shelter and protection that I was.